"MS Remote Display Control" is only "amusing" 'cuz you're trying to use it in a way that it was not intended. When things are normal, it works "as advertised" too, meaning well and easily. Remember, it's actually a PPC program that you're using on a SmartPhone. So, the screens are not formatted for your device. And, just to be clear, the only thing it will do - if you get it running - is allow you to see your phone's screen on your computer. If Jeyo has already let you get your messages and you've got your contacts ActiveSync'd to Outlook, then, from your original post, it's unclear to me if you still need this. But, here goes...
I think there are other programs for displaying your screen on your computer, but I don't know what they are or if you can install any of them without being able to see your screen. After the fact is tough. But, maybe you'll have better luck with one of them though. Sorry I can't give you any names. Ask in another thread and you might get someone else's attention and help.
(*note to self: make a speed dial shortcut and a voice tag to CERDisp in case this ever happens to me so I can start the program without seeing it.
Re: MS Remote Display Control
It's tough 'cuz you need to know where it is on your start menu to activate it. But, if you find it somehow...
Like you said, first you connect via ActiveSync and run the Remote Host program on your computer. On my phone, when I open Cerdisp the "About CERDisp" screen immediately pops up and then it sits for a strong 30 seconds before the "CE Remote Display" screen comes up with 4 buttons you can choose from. But, unfortunately for you, none are linked to the soft buttons.
I noticed when it opened it was by default on the "hide" button. I moved one button to the left to select "connect". If you go two presses to the left it automatically jumps up a row to "settings" and if you press left again it's back to the bottom row and "exit". It'll just keep going in this backward loop around all four choices if you keep pressing your D-pad left. When it opens on the default "hide" you can also go three presses right and you'll end up on "connect" that way too.
After "connect" is pressed (by using the action key on your phone) it immediately goes to the "Connect" screen that shows the hostname as PPP_PEER. From here you just press the action key again which behaves the same as if you had pressed the down key once to jump from that box to the "OK" button and then pressed the "enter/action" key again on the D-Pad. Do it one way, or the other.
1) start the host program on your computer
2) start the CERDisp program on your phone and wait at least 30 seconds (I'd wait more just to be certain.)
3) move one click left and press the action key on your device
4) press the action key one more time and hope your screen shows up in the blank window on your computer's desktop. It takes about two seconds to show up on mine.
If you make it to the "CE Remote Display" window and accidentally hit "hide" the whole program disappears and I haven't found a way to get it back without re-booting and starting over. "Exit" is self-explanatory. "Settings" brings up a "settings" window where you can set the refresh rate. One press of the action key brings you back to the "CE Remote Display" window where you're trying to choose "connect". What I'm getting at is, there doesn't seem to be any trouble you can get into if you accidentally press the wrong key that you can't see. It looks like the worst case scenario is you just won't get to where you want to go (having your device screen show up on your desktop) and will probably just have to re-boot to start over and try again.
Devices: T-Mobile MDA (Cingular SIM), i-mate SP5m (sitting in a drawer at the moment while I attempt to migrate to PPC permanently), Cingular 3125 (unlocked and in use on T-Mobile), Motorola MPx220 (retired), Motorola MPx200 (retired)
Accessories: Plantronics Explorer 330 & 2G Patriot Micro-SD (use w/MDA), Kingston 2G mini-SD used in SP5m, Plantronics Discovery 640 & 2G San Disk micro-SD (use w/3125), Jabra A210 BT adapter + Motorola HS805 (retired)